One of my biggest flaws would be that I am an overthinker. I'm the type of person who likes to weigh my options before deciding on anything. I put it off until the last possible moment. That is until I can decide on whether it is something I want. Even when shopping, I usually take my time figuring out if I needed something and if it was even worth buying.
Another overthinker trait that I have is rewinding things that happened to me in my head. I have random moments thinking about other ways I could have dealt with things. I know I’m not the only one who does this. I’ve seen memes of how people think of how they would change things days, weeks, or years too late.
A person might think that as an overthinker, I can be indecisive. Or that I tend to look back to the past more than a person should. I disagree. It’s not that I do not like making decisions, it’s only that it takes me longer to do so. I would like to think that it’s more about making sure that what I say or do are things that I do not regret in the long run. That’s not to say that I always make the right decisions. It's more that I won’t regret making them because I know I made the best one I could during that time.
Do I dwell on the past more than I should as an overthinker? I don’t think so. I admit I have moments when I look back on things I’ve said and done. But I don’t think it’s something that I do too much or more than any normal person out there. If anything, looking back on the past for me is not about overthinking any regrets I have. It’s more about reviewing the lessons learned from them. Thinking of the past is about reminding myself of the good things and the bad. Celebrating life’s little victories and reminding myself of areas where I can do better moving forward.
I may not be that spontaneous with the things I do, but it’s because I try not to have any regrets in my life. If it was a good decision, I would celebrate it. If it was a bad one, I take it as a lesson learned. But that doesn’t mean I will keep rehashing the past because of it. I will own up to the bad decision and move on.
It helps that I usually think about things before saying or doing any of them. Whenever I make a decision that does not end well, I take responsibility for it. I will learn how to do better next time. But that’s it.
Like everyone else, I did have my moments when I thought too much about things that I regret from my past. It took me a while before I realized that overthinking would not get me anywhere. I learned that I would not be able to change anything already in the past. There was no point in overthinking and wasting my time on it.
To me, the past should stay in the past. I am thankful that it made me into the person I am today, but I can’t keep living in it. None of us should. The person you were then is different from who you are now. And the present is a more important space to live in if you want to create a better future for yourself.
It’s normal to have regrets about something in your past. But it is better to look from a different perspective when you think about it. The important thing is not to dwell on it. Take it for what it is (a memory, a lesson, or a reminder) and move forward. Otherwise, that past will cripple you from having a fulfilling life in the present and future.
I may overthink, but I like to do it in a way that would benefit me rather than hold me back. I hope that even if I were to slip up from time to time, I would still be able to look at my life decisions in this way. It has taken a while for me to learn to have this mindset, but I love how much better this has made things for me. If I change in any way, I hope it would only be to make this way of thinking even better.
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