There’s something about going out on your own that makes you learn more about yourself. Everything you do when you go out is your decision. The restaurant you eat, the movie you watch, the cafe you visit, everything is based on what you want. You’re not compromising with one or more people, it’s all about you.
Another benefit I got from this is that as an introvert, it forced me out of my comfort zone. The experience helped me to become independent. I used to be the person who would need someone to go with me anywhere because I needed someone to do the talking. I was too shy to ask people about things and preferred keeping to myself. These days, I can easily do these things on my own. If you asked me years ago if I could do it eventually, I would have probably said no. I am proud that I grew from this experience.
I have not gone on dates with myself (that sounds weird, but it is what it is) lately. These days I find myself preferring to stay at home instead of going out. So much of what I used to do on my own I can do online now. I can shop, buy food, get coffee, and watch movies online. I can catch up with friends online and even get a consultation with a doctor via an app too. I can even get some other services done at home by setting up an appointment online. It’s all been so convenient that it doesn’t seem practical to go out as much anymore.
One more thing deterring me from going out on my own is all the people who try to approach you when they see you’re alone. People who are trying to sell something. People who think that you’re a lonely person who needs someone to talk to. It seems there have been a lot of this lately. I rarely go out alone but when I do I seem to attract people like this. It defeats the purpose of getting my alone time so I have not been doing it anymore.
Still, I do miss the things that came with going out alone. I miss being able to discover new things when I am off on my adventures. I miss the people-watching I usually end up doing while I eat or have coffee alone. I miss being around people but not being bothered by anyone else. It might not make sense to some people, but that is something that I enjoy a lot.
The alone times and the moments when I dated myself were things that I considered as good for my mental health. I would love to experience them again. Maybe one day I can go out alone again. I could go to a place where the type of people who go there do not bother anyone else when they are alone. It would be great to have those moments again soon.
Things have been hectic for me lately but I would want to do my alone moments again one day. It’s just tough to plan out. Adulting things have been keeping me busy and all I want to do is stay at home all day whenever I have the time. It would be nice at least to get a quick cafe visit one of these days though.
I wonder if any other people enjoy having ”me time” the way that I do. Does anyone else enjoy it? Or do more people prefer being around other people when they go out? Time with other people is not a bad thing, but carving some time with yourself is a great thing to indulge in too.
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