Like everyone else, I have my good days and my bad days. Some days, when it’s good, it can get really good. Sometimes when it’s bad, it can be OK despite the negative parts. Bad days can be manageable, depending on how you look at things. However, there are days when things start to feel overwhelming. I was not always good at dealing with that, but these days I’d like to think I have gotten better at it.
When I was younger, bad days filled me with so much panic and anxiety. It was easy for me to get overwhelmed and let the negative thoughts take over my mind. I would let the fear of things going from bad to worse rattle me. Even when people would come to help me through things I tended to drown in my self-doubt. I would retreat into my mind and wallow in anxiety and self-pity. It was not a pretty picture.
Now that I am more mature (?!) I have been able to manage my feelings better when life gets a bit too overwhelming. It seems to me that the negative experiences of the past have helped to mold me into a stronger version of myself. It has made me more confident about facing challenging moments in my life. The phrase "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" comes to mind.
The bad times in my past were difficult, but looking back, I was able to get past them. I overcame the challenges that those moments brought to me. It made me realize that despite everything, I still found a way to work things out. It may not always be in ways I expected, but I survived every trial that life has given me so far. And it has made me more confident about facing future challenges that I will have. It has given me the mindset that no matter what happens, life will go on and I will move on to other things.
As one saying goes, do what you can with things that you can control, and let go of things that you cannot. Do what you can, when you can, and leave the rest to fate. Things will usually fall into place in a way you did not imagine they would.
When things get too overwhelming, that is exactly what I do. I work on things I can do to solve the problem, but I also let go of the things beyond my control. I tend to follow where life takes me as I work things out and then hope for the best. Things can be stressful and it is not easy. Regardless, I do my best to detach as much as I can. It helps me to have a clear mind to make the right decisions in a given situation.
how do I detach? I distract myself. I stop myself from thinking about the problem for a bit and do what will help me to decompress. I could go take a walk. Or I could listen to music I enjoy. Or I could watch something that makes me smile. Sometimes it can be as simple as looking out the window and watching the sunset. That or looking at the moon and the stars.
When I look up at the sky, it reminds me that I am a tiny speck in such a large world, in a vast universe. My problems seem big, but it is not the end of the world. There are greater problems out there. And if the rest of the world still turns despite the big problems it faces, why can't I?
I am in no way making light of people who are feeling down when life gets hard. I have been there. I also feel the same way when that happens. What I can say is that each time it happens, it is a learning experience. We can choose to learn and be stronger from it so that we can do better moving forward.
It's also OK to feel bad, to own up to what you're feeling. But we can also make the effort to take a step back from things when they get hard. It's alright to do so. That way we can come back stronger and better. We can be ready to face and solve the problems that come our way.
Life can be overwhelming sometimes, but once we get past that, it is an amazing thing overall. We just have to remember that we are only human. Let's just do the best we can and let life take care of the rest.
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